Ray Rice's Wife Hey Media ... You Ruined Our Lives

Janay Palmer is finally breaking her silence about the video showing Ray Rice beating the crap out of her ( in a hotel elevator) -- defending Ray and blaming the media. 

In a post from her Instagram page Tuesday morning, and verified by the Baltimore Sun, Janay Palmer writes, "I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I'm mourning the death of my closest friend. But to have to accept the fact that it's reality is a nightmare in itself."

She continued, "No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific."

Palmer ended the post by saying, "THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don't you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you've succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!"